Love Yourself to Be Happy

There is plenty of evidence from research to demonstrate that learning to love yourself to be happy really works to build a happier life in all its many areas.

Loving yourself also builds self confidence and self esteem, further creating an ambience that goes with you wherever you go and whatever you do.

The phrase, "I love you" is without doubt a widely used mantra in human interaction.

Yet how often do you tell yourself, "I love you?"

There should be much importance placed on the realization that how you love yourself represents the foundation for being able to freely love others and for others to freely return that love to you.

How to Love Yourself

How might it be possible to create a true sense of self-love that comes naturally to you?

You mat have noticed that it seems to be a trait that some seem to have naturally, while it can be a challenging process for others.

Nobody can predict where they will end up in life. That's because every person is the result of their own unique life experiences.

However, you can influence the path that you take through life to a certain degree by the way you feel about yourself. You can determine how you are and even change yourself as you choose, but you can't change others.

To start loving yourself and as a positive side-effect, start improving your confidence, you're going to have to put in the necessary effort from your perspective.

The main part of that effort is to rewire your brain to believe that you truly do love yourself purely and the best way to do that is to tell it, repeatedly: "I love you!"

The Importance of Loving Yourself

Since birth, part of our hardwired programming is to seek love and this is something we continue doing throughout our lives.

This is of great importance, because when you love yourself, you are in control of your life. When you make it your priority to love yourself, your life opens up to receiving the love you need.

On the contrary, when don't love yourself, your mindset is that of feeling undeserving of love from others.

So it makes sense that to receive the love you desire while forming healthy relationships with others, loving yourself is the first and most important step.

Why it's Important

When a person truly loves themselves, they cultivate a mentality of embracing and acceptance. They are drawn to openly accept whatever happens to them and hold themselves accountable for all their actions.

Understanding the essence of love, happiness and sincerity stems from the acceptance of yourself in your entirety.

Loving yourself reduces the propensity for anxiety when confronted with adversity. There is less need to compete with others or make comparisons with them.

The appreciation of any misfortunes and the adoption of a positive mindset follows the love you feel for yourself, opening yourself to new ideas and taking pleasure in trying new things.

Loving yourself naturally increases self-esteem and confidence about yourself and all the things you are capable of achieving.

When your self-esteem is high, any setbacks are perceived as learning opportunities instead of failures. When you know your true worth, your confidence becomes unshakable.

What If You're Self Esteem is Low?

Many people suffer from low self-esteem through the result of certain negative experiences that occurred at some times during their lives.

The first step to changing that situation is to realize that you are not alone and in fact most people in the world are affected by this problem. Also realize that you have the power to change how you feel, simply be being aware that you can!

When you feel low, start by thinking of a time when you felt great, happy and successful. There will be moments in your life when you achieved something that made you feel really good inside.

If such moments were marred by the reaction of others in a negative way, you need to hold on to how you felt before anyone else had the chance to try and ruin it through jealousy or their own bad programming.

This realization comes with a payload of positives. Most notably that once you realize that your successes were downplayed or derided by another person or other people, you'll know that it wasn't anything you did wrong, but the failings of the other person or people that caused them to take out their own jealousy or misery on you.

Certainly, if such a negative experience came from someone close to you or someone you loved, like a parent, sibling, close relative or good friend, the effects were more devastating. But the worse they made you feel, just realize that the worse they felt in themselves was what made them be horrible to you.

So now you can work on yourself by cleaning your mind to shake off that and in fact any negative experience you had in the past that was caused by interference from other people.

Other people may have caused your low self-esteem, but you can change it. You have that power!

Think back to your successes and how you felt about them at first. Then say to yourself something like, "Hey, I was amazing! Hey, I'm still amazing!" Then tell yourself, "I love you!"

You can reinforce such a mantra by writing it down and speaking the words aloud, over and over as you imagine yourself feeling that love for yourself as you do so.

Do that often and repeatedly. The mind learns best by repetition so to break an old paradigm created by other people, you need to repeatedly tell your mind the way you want to feel and to be. It will learn its new program that you give it as sure as night follows day!

Summary

Even if you think you don't much like yourself and don't know why, you can really turn that around and learn to love yourself.

You can reverse low self-esteem and raise it to a surprisingly high level and your confidence will increase along with it. You can reprogram your mind to learn new good habitual ways of thinking simply by telling it over and over and over!

That's why positive affirmations and mantras work so well when they're repeatedly spoken daily.